Is counselling right for me?

Counselling can be helpful for people experiencing difficult thoughts, feelings, or situations. It supports those feeling confused, anxious, stuck, or simply curious about understanding themselves better. Many people come to explore patterns, process change, or gain clarity. If you have questions, you can get in touch or visit the counselling services page for more information.

What kinds of issues do you work with?

I support adults with a wide range of concerns including anxiety, stress, burnout, grief, relationship difficulties, low self-esteem, and life transitions. If you are looking for counselling for a particular issue, you can find more information on the Counselling Services page or get in touch to discuss how I may be able to help.

Is everything I say confidential?

Yes. What you share in counselling is kept completely confidential, with a few legal exceptions related to safety. I explain this fully in our first session so you understand exactly where you stand. You can also read more in the Privacy Policy.

How much does counselling cost?

Sessions cost £50. Payment is usually made in advance online or before the session by cash or card. I offer a limited number of concessionary spaces—please ask if cost is a concern. More details are on the Sessions and Fees page.

How do I book a session?

You can contact me via email or call 07755 4356807 and leave a message, or use the contact form on my website. I will get back to you to arrange an initial free 20-minute chat to explore what brings you to therapy and how I may be able to help.

What happens during a session?

Sessions provide a safe space to talk openly about what’s on your mind. I listen without judgement and help you explore what’s happening beneath the surface. It is a collaborative process where you set the pace and focus. You can find out more on the Sessions and Fees page or by reading about my therapeutic approach.

How many sessions will I need?

The number of sessions varies from person to person. Some people benefit from a few sessions, while others prefer longer-term therapy. We regularly review your progress and decide what feels right for you.

What if I don’t feel a connection with the counsellor?

The therapeutic relationship is an important part of therapy. If after a few sessions you feel that I may not be the right fit, I will support you in finding someone who might be a better match.

What happens if I need to cancel a session?

If you need to cancel a session, I ask for at least 24 hours’ notice. You can contact me by text, email, or phone. Where possible, I will try to reschedule, but late cancellations may still be charged. More details are available on the Sessions and Fees page.

Can counselling really help me feel better?

Many people find relief simply by being able to talk and be understood. Over time, counselling can help you gain clarity, shift unhelpful patterns, and feel more confident in navigating life’s challenges. You can learn more on the Counselling Services page.

How to manage the 'shoulds' at Christmas...

The glitter in the high street shop windows on the doesn’t tell the whole story. For some of us, December arrives like a rising tide of ‘shoulds’: You should be happy. You should spend money you don’t have. You should reconcile with people who haven’t earned your time and attention.

It’s heavy, complicated, draining.

Real life is messy

The adverts would have us believe that behind each warmly-lit, cosy-looking window and door, there is a heart-warming Christmas scene, of three generations of family around a turkey. But the truth is often much messier. Maybe this is your first year of silence, of stepping away from family obligations. Maybe you’re navigating the “Phantom Limb” of estrangement—missing a version of a family that never actually existed. Or maybe you’re just exhausted from the performance of ‘getting in the Christmas Spirit’.

You are allowed to reclaim the calendar.

If the thought of a full-blown family production makes you want to hide, shrink the schedule. Your Christmas doesn’t have to be a fortnight of endurance; it can be a single, quiet afternoon. It can be a walk through the Teign Valley where the only noise is the river, or a day where the “traditional roast” is replaced by whatever actually brings you comfort.

Here is how you could draw a line in the Devon frost this year:

The "Silent" Permission

If you are navigating estrangement, the silence isn’t a failure. It’s a boundary you built to stay safe. You don’t owe anyone a seat at your table just because it’s December.

The "1-in-5" Reality

You are allowed to say No.

No to the party you don’t have the energy for. No to the relative who always upsets you. No to spending money you don’t have just to “keep up.” Try to communicate your plans sooner rather than later, early so people know what to expect. Saying something like, “I can only stay for two hours this year” makes things clearer.

Edit the Script

If specific traditions feel like salt in a wound, scrap them. Start a ritual that belongs only to you—one that doesn’t require you to perform “happy” for an audience.

The Cost of ‘Coping’

Financial and emotional strain often peak now. If “making it perfect” is costing you your peace of mind, the price is too high.

A Final thought..

While the lights on the high street may try to convince us everything is sparkling, it’s okay to acknowledge the grey. You aren’t failing at Christmas; you’re succeeding at protecting your own mental health.

Enjoy your peace this Christmas x

If you’re looking to untangle challenges your facing and find a path to firmer ground, I offer a counselling in a space that’s professional but human, gentle but honest. Find out more about how I work on About and Counselling Services pages. Or get in touch on Whatsapp